Despite any evidence to the contrary I don’t have a whole lot going on from day to day. I just go about my life; doing laundry, eating my face off, writing and watching old episodes of Arrested Development and Mary Tyler Moore thanks to the miracle of Apple TV. A fairly mundane state of being by anyone’s standards.
The other day a lovely woman in Chicago sent me an email that said I was living her dream. But I suspect if she hung out with me for a day or two she’d be bored to sobs and race back to her thrilling big city life where women wear hooker shoes and go out for cocktails on Thursday nights. One woman’s dream is likely another woman’s cauchemar (nightmare), yet another stunning example of the useless French words I know.
But hum-drum days aside there is the odd dream being realized over here. Not long ago I put a year in France under my belt and so far that’s pretty high up on my ‘things I’ve always wanted to do’ list. And today I’m crossing off another one, ‘someday I’d like to write a book’. Now I’m not saying it’ll ever be anything other than a pile of kindling but who cares? The point is that I wrote it, all 65,000 words of it. It was a lot of work and it took a lot of time but I loved every minute of it. Okay not the minutes where I nearly tore all my hair out because I don’t really know how to use Word but all the rest were a pleasure.
For those thinking my book is something new I have some bad news for you, there’s nothing new under the sun. Instead of starting from scratch I re-read every single blog post I’ve ever written (who knew I used the word wacky so much?), weeded out anything not related to the Big French Adventure, tidied it all up again and again and finally chose about 160 photos to add in. Then I strung it all together into something that I hope truly captures the experience of what I’ve done over the last 18 months. So same story, different package.
What will become of it is a mystery to me. It’s now under the gaze of a couple of writerly types who have kindly agreed to give it a read and help me decide to either keep on with it or swiftly put it out of its misery. But here’s the best part, I don’t really give a merde. It could be the worst book ever written or Eat, Pray, Love Part Deux, either way it’s completely irrelevant.
I simply cannot lose on this one. I have a record of my mid-life mayhem and my year in France as well as hard proof of how much I love my monsieur which will come in handy the next time he’s driving me bananas. And when I’m old and gray, so that means today, I can say I once wrote a book.
So just like I did on the day of my Franceaversary, this morning I walked over the Pont Pinard and there it was again, that joy thing. But this time I was ready for it. I stopped to settle into it and I thought of something the probably great and now definitely late Steve Jobs once said, “Your time is limited so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” Words to live by.
This is what I needed to hear today. Someone right where they need to be and loving every minute of it. Thank you. I have no doubt your book will sell. The simple fact that you’re following your dream is any sick person’s antidote but that you’re writing about it is pure magic.
And this is what I needed to hear today. Thank you.
A marvelous post.
I’m so very proud of you my friend.
(do i actually have to PAY for the book?)
Mwah! No, of course not. My plan is to get it published and then give a free copy to anyone who asks for it. I should be CEO of something, I’m that savvy.
great minds think alike….The quote by Steve Jobs now graces my email signature box…words to live by indeed….
Autographed copy please!
Okay but you’ll have to come to Paris to get it!!
I can’t wait to buy it…….for me and my friends. And, I have now reached the wonderful age where the hooker shoes kill my feet anyways. I’d much prefer your french bakery. I wish you much literary success.
Flats and face stuffing is the new rage. Thanks Lorraine!
Congratulations on the book! And on all that you have done this past year and some. As always I find myself either guffawing, or as is the case today, touched to the core by your work. If I were you, I’d be proud of me!
Aw, thanks Ken!
I think just the humor should sell your book! Seriously, you should in the very least have a column in some fancy magazine. Maybe you do and I don’t know about it? In any case, whatever is written from the heart is heard. By you and by us. I have never dreamt of living in France, in fact, I have never had any ‘big’ dreams at all and it’s something I kind of struggle with (dear god, WHAT is my passion?? I need a passion and a purpose!) and as a result I have lived in many different places and countries, but mostly because that’s where the flow took me. That’s why I love coming here, your enthusiasm is genuine and kind of contageous. To use an overused word, it’s inspiring. And you are a funny writer :) I would buy your book.
Sounds like you have a passion for the flow, I think that’s incredible. If the book ever sees the light of day I’ll be calling you looking for my $19.95! Thanks so much for your kind words Kerstin.
Can you hear me cheering you from here? You’re right – you cannot lose on this. And I stand by what I tweeted. You’re going to be surprised.
I hear you and it’s lovely.
I’d buy the book – and happily come to Paris to have it autographed. I’ll be standing under the Eiffel Tower – the bald one waving a book ;)
I’ve gone the other way, from South Africa to UK to Canada to live my dream. They don’t have the pastries here in Vancouver that they do in France (and I think my hips and thighs are most grateful for this!!) but that doesn’t detract from the awesomeness of living your dream.
It’s a happy day when I see a new post from you – sometimes uplifting, inspiring, thought-provoking, funny and any and all of the above combinations and more besides! ;)
Oh how sweet you are! Anyone bald is a friend of mine! Merci bien!
Bobbi, I’m so very happy for you. This is a huge, wonderful deal and you have every right to be twirling like Maria on the mountaintop.
Big hugs, my friend.
Twirling, twirling…
The Right Day to read the Right words From Bobbie! Thank you
LA Goddess every day is the right day for hearing from you!
Congratulations on finishing and you’re absolutely right, this is a win no matter what happens now. But I really think your writing will sell. Here’s to you!
Well I suppose it would be nice to actually get paid for something. I’m thinking of starting to charge Neil for laundry.
Oh, Oh, OH I can’t wait! I lurk a lot, comment sporadically, but always enjoy your blog. I think you’re living My Dream, particularly since you include the warts (learning French, like, rly, and slogging through the infamous French Bureaucracy and coming out with a house after all). I hope you will continue to update us on the progress of the Polite Gym vs. the Effect of the Boulangerie in your blog!
Sincerely, Yr Fan in the Midwest of Amurica
I thought that was you over in the corner. Thanks for coming out and for being soooo sweet.
ahhh, ***sigh****. pure happiness. :)
I can almost hear you on this one!
Well done, Bobbi! I will buy your book and a few more as Christmas gifts. I like Averil’s idea. After I buy your book I’ll have to travel to France to meet you and ask you to autograph it. When will you start working on the movie?!
Well these things take a lot of time so maybe by next Christmas there’ll be a book, who knows? As for a movie, now that would be just wacky!
Bobbi – can’t wait for the book. I am sure there will be a book that I can buy here.
Have “find a career” on my list of things to do. I think I picked the wrong one, or maybe the right one that is due to end now. Busy now though with several children and two dogs.
Think you are hysterically funny and wish I had been able to figure things out the way you have. Not that I am one big regret or anything. I pretty much love my life, just need to figure out the work part.
Listen, I wish I’d figured something out ages ago. I have so much left to figure out that I’m riding this one for as long as I can.
It’s never too late to change careers. Let it always be floating around in your head, prepare yourself as best you can because the minute the really put it out into the world that you want the change it will be sprung on you when you least expect it. Bonne chance!!
1. Congratulations!!!!!!
B. I have no doubt it will be published.
1. Merci
B. From your lips to god’s ear
as usual, late to the party, but a big fat CONGRATS to you anyway.
“That Joy Thing”
nice. (you know, if you were wondering about a title…maybe spell joy in french?)
the french word for nightmare looks like how people around here pronounce cashmere.
I know I love when French words for things are beyond lovely. It gives me faith that one day I will like this bloody mess of a language.
See a MOVIE… we are still on track!!
Well you know Steven Spielberg. Call him up and see if he knows Nora Ephron, she’s the one we really need!
Just think of all the Cameo Appearances you will have with all the Followers!
Need the book first please… And the Hubby knows him, not me…
Yes, yes first things first! If by some miracle a book gets published we’ll get your hubby to drop us on Steven’s doorstep and beg him to hook us up. As long as you wear that black feather skirt we’re in…
Why am I not surprised to learn you love Arrested Development and MTM? Two of my favorite series ever! (I own all three seasons of Arrested Development and a couple of MTM.)
And someday soon, I will own that book of yours. No doubt.
Speaking of movies, apparently an AD film is in the works, yippee!!!
And a new season on TV!
Bobbi:
Congrats on your France-ann’y! And I await for your book too. I just re-watched Eat Pray Love because I love films about travel and/or food. If your book ever becomes a film, then I’d imagine mouth-watering montages of food. Your recent pic of the bakery has me salivating for freshly made croissants and yearning for glorious smell inside bakeries.
Mine will be called Eat, Conjugate, Swear
Yay! Congratulations on your franceaversary AND the book! I have a feeling it will all fall into place, how can it not?
I love when people say yay! Let the chips fall where they may.
Yah, I get to wear my Feather skirt Again !!! and BTW, there’s more folks out there besides Steven… D is working with a very great young Director that this movie would work plenty inside her heart! Get the book done! ASap….
Wow! Yay for you — cannot wait to read the adventure in book form!
Well on verra as they say here, we’ll see. You guys are getting me all pumped and psyched…
Oh hun, you should be so proud of yourself. And I’ll tell you one thing – Even if it is your blog posts binded together into a brand new hardback sitting in the shops, I’m still going to buy it! :D So happy for you.
Now there’s an idea…